Are Vulvas Taboo?

The pretty Vulva seems to be a mysterious part of the female anatomy. It gives life; however, very little is known about it to most vulva owners and non-vulva owners. In fact, upwards of 60% of women don’t know how their vulva works and have never seen it with a mirror. Doctors aren’t taught about it in school either! Each vulva is unique in size, shape, and color, but most women think their vulva is not normal which the majority are uniquely normal. Which makes me ask if the Vulva is considered taboo? It’s ok, we’re here to de-mystify this multi-orgasmic and highly erogenous zone. Let’s dive in (pun intended)!


The Vagina is often referred to as the female genitalia but this is incorrect. The Vagina is the opening between the vulva (outer) and the cervix. The Vulva is the external part of the genitalia, which includes the clitoris, inner and outer labia or commonly known as the lips, and perineum which is located between the vagina and the anus. All of which are highly erogenous zones.


The clitoris is made only for sexual pleasure and has no other purpose. The Creator of this pearl must have thought sexual pleasure was important. It is made up of 8000 nerve endings, which is twice as many as compared to the penis with 4000 nerve endings. This may be referred to as the female “start button”, but before going straight there she will likely need some warming up due to how sensitive the clitoris is.

While in utero the male and female tiny bundle of tissue that makes up the clitoris is the same tissue as the one that makes up the penis. This is why you may notice that the clitoris becomes erect when stimulated, just like the penis.  The same goes for the ovaries and testicles. The clitoral hood is the same as the foreskin of the penis. Crazy, huh? The human body is fascinating.


80% of women can not orgasm during penetration without clitoral stimulation. So, ladies, you are not doing it wrong, and your vulva is not broken. There are toys such as Perfect Match by Pure Romance that provide stimulation to her clitoris during penetrative sex while stimulating the penis as well. Great fun for both!

You may have heard of the “G Spot”, but wonder if it exists. Truthfully it exists. It is located inside the vagina towards the navel, between 11 am – 2 pm on a clock, with 12 pm located just behind the navel. It has a ribbed texture to it just like on the roof of your mouth. Use a finger with a come hither motion to gently massage it. You will soon find out what the “Big O” is all about.


Did you know the vaginal wall is made up of muscles and needs exercised? There are several reasons why you would want to tone this area, as it assists with incontinence and better orgasms. Aging and childbirth can cause these muscles to need to hit the gym so to speak. It’s easier than it sounds and has great rewards. Kegel exercises are great for toning the vaginal muscles. You can also use Ben-Wa balls to tone these muscles by holding the balls inside the vagina with gentle squeezing. The Bloom by We-Vibe is an excellent device you can use that is like electronic Ben-Wa Balls. They run with the push of a button or with an App that you or your partner can run remotely. It comes with a USB charger.

XX Lola

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